GUIDELINES FOR WEDDING MUSIC

Diocese of San Diego

INTRODUCTION

 

TO THE BRIDE AND GROOM

 

                Congratulations!  You stand on the brink of a sacred, exciting, lifelong adventure together.  We know that this is a very happy and busy time for you and we share your hope that everything about your wedding day will be beautiful and joyous.  This is the reason that these Guidelines for Wedding Music were created.

 

                When we think of weddings we automatically think of the bride and the groom and their love for one another.  But there is much more involved in your love and your marriage than just the two of you.  There are, for instance, your family and friends who have helped bring you to this point and who will continue to support and encourage you as you begin your new life together.  And there is God who is the source of your love and whose love for you is reflected in your love for one another.  That is why your decision to share your lives, and to grow together in Christian love calls for a special celebration in and with the faith-community, the parish.

 

                People in love make signs of love, not only to express their love but also to deepen it.  Love never expressed dies, Christians' love for Christ and for each other, Christians' faith in Christ and in each other, must be expressed in the signs and symbols of celebration or it will die.  Music in Catholic Worship, #4

 

Everything about the wedding ceremony should witness to all those present your understanding that you are entering a sacred and holy union - a sacrament.  Therefore, everything about the service, including the music, calls for careful planning that will contribute to this understanding.  If it does not, then it is unsuitable for your wedding celebration because it is unworthy of the occasion.  Everyone present at your wedding should be led by the dignity and beauty of the liturgy to a deeper understanding of Christian marriage and, consequently, to a greater commitment to it.  In a sense, your wedding is your gift to your family and friends.  It is your invitation for them to enter into and share your faith - your love, your prayer.  We know that you are anxious to make it the best possible gift.

 

Faith grows when it is well expressed in celebration.  Good celebrations foster and nourish faith.  Poor celebrations weaken and destroy faith.  Music in Catholic Worship, #6

 

A worship aid/program should include all music that the congregation is expected to sing to enable their full participation and make the liturgy truly alive.

 

                Because you have chosen to invite Christ to make your love a sacrament, the music you choose for your wedding must express this unique and distinct encounter.  Just as you would not expect to pronounce your wedding vows in street language, so you would not expect to hear "everyday" love songs within a ceremony celebrating Christian married love.  Certainly "your song" will have a place later in the day's festivities; but during the wedding liturgy itself the emphasis should be God's love for you, your love for God, the love of the community for you, your love for them and how these support and confirm your love for each other.

 

                Music in Catholic Worship states that to determine the value of a given musical element in a liturgical celebration a threefold judgment must be made:  musical, liturgical and pastoral.  (Ibid., #25)

 

MUSICAL JUDGMENT

 

                Is the music technically, aesthetically and expressively good?  This judgment is basic and primary and should be made by competent musicians.  Only artistically sound music will be effective in the long run.  To admit the cheap, the trite, the musical cliché often found in popular songs on the grounds of instant liturgy is to cheapen the liturgy, to expose it to ridicule, and to invite failure.  (Ibid. #26)

 

LITURGICAL JUDGMENT

 

                The Nature of the liturgy itself will help to determine what kind of music is called for, what parts are to be preferred for singing and who is to sing them.  (Ibid. #30)

 

                The lyrics of songs chosen for the wedding liturgy should express the Christian concept of life, rather than one which is purely secular.  The liturgy of marriage celebrates not only the human love between two persons but also their relation to God who is love.  The texts must always be in conformity with Catholic doctrine, indeed they should be drawn chiefly from Holy Scripture, and from liturgical sources.  Constitution on Sacred Liturgy, Vatican Council II, #121

 

Perhaps the best criterion is simply the question, Can you pray the words of the text?  Does the music express and interpret the text correctly and manifest the meaning more clearly?  Is the form of the text respected?  In making these judgments the general classification of liturgical texts must be kept in mind:  proclamations, acclamations, psalms, antiphons, litanies, hymns, and prayers.  Each has a specific function and form which must be served by the music chosen for the text.

 

                Special musical concern must be given to the roles of the congregation, the cantor, the choir and the instrumentalist.  Music in Catholic Worship, #33  Music chosen should be within the performance ability of all involved.  The choices of sung parts, the balance between them, and the style of musical setting used should reflect the relative importance of the parts of the Mass (or other service) and the nature of each part.  (Ibid. #31)

 

PASTORAL JUDGMENT

 

                The pastoral judgment governs the use and function of every element of celebration.  Ideally this judgment is made by the planning team or committee.  It is the judgment that must be made in this particular situation, in these concrete circumstances.  Does music in the celebration enable these people to express their faith, in this place, in this age, in this culture?  (Ibid. #39)

 

                The music chosen should be effective for this congregation.  It should be suitable for use in a religious, liturgical service whose primary concern is the worship of God.  Therefore, the role of music in the celebration of the Eucharist and the sacraments is threefold:

 

                1.  Music must fulfill a role of service.

                2.  Music must invite and involve congregational participation.

                3.  Music must be an integral part of the liturgy.

 

                Because of the communal aspects of the celebration, the role of the soloist has evolved into that of cantor or leader of song, thus encouraging the congregation in its rightful role of active participation rather than observation, while still providing some solo vocal pieces when that is appropriate and desired.

 

PLACE OF MUSIC WITHIN THE WEDDING LITURGY

 

                Music suggestions are merely indicative of the various types of music and texts which may be used at the Wedding Liturgy.  It is necessary to consult with your parish music director well in advance of the liturgy to coordinate the planning of this important day.

 

INTRODUCTORY RITES

 

PRELUDE

 

                The arrival of your wedding guests may be accompanied by instrumental music, a vocal solo, or choir.  The music selected should be in keeping with the event to follow, i.e., a period of prayerful preparation.  It is not the time for performing a 'favorite piece' that is unsuitable within the ceremony itself.

 

PROCESSIONAL

 

                The processional can be instrumental music (organ, brass quintet, trumpet, etc.)  Some of the most popular appropriate selections include:

 

                Jesu, Joy of Man's Desiring - J.S. Bach

                Canon in D Major - J. Pachelbel

                The Prince of Denmark's March (Trumpet Voluntary) - J. Clarke

                Rondeau - J.J. Mouret

                Trumpet Processional - Campra

                Trumpet Tune - Purcell/Clarke

                Trumpet Tune in D - David Johnson

                Trumpet Voluntary - Stanley

 

                In addition to these, your parish music director may have other suggestions.

 

                The so-called traditional "wedding marches" by Wagner and Mendelssohn have nothing to do with the Sacred Liturgy and may not be used.  In fact, the origin of these compositions borders on the profane and the ridiculous.  The "Bridal Chorus" ("Here Comes the Bride") from Wagner's opera, Lohengrin, accompanies an illicit ceremony, a tragic bedroom fiasco.  Mendelssohn's incidental music to Shakespeare's Midsummer Night's Dream accompanies a farcical wedding.  Even though they are frequently used in the United States in Protestant churches, they are rarely used in Catholic churches.  For the above mentioned reasons, to use them in connection with a church ceremony is simply inappropriate.  (Again your parish organist should be able to suggest and demonstrate numerous other compositions from which to choose, thus adding to the dignity and uniqueness of your wedding liturgy.)

 

OPENING HYMN

 

                The processional may also be a congregational hymn setting or may be followed by one.  If a hymn is to be sung, either as a processional or after the processional, it should be one that is familiar in many denominations since there will probably be non-Catholics at your wedding.  With this in mind the following are a few excellent choices:

 

                Love Divine, All Love's Excelling

                Joyful, Joyful We Adore You

                May the Grace of Christ

 

 

LITURGY OF THE WORD

 

1ST READING - Recited

 

RESPONSORIAL PSALM

 

                A brief period of reflective silence follows the first reading.  Then the responsorial psalm is SUNG.  The congregation sings the antiphon with the cantor singing the verses.

 

                Psalms 33, 34, 103, 112, 128, 145 and 148 are recommended in the Roman Ritual.  Your parish hymnal(s) will have settings of these from which you can choose.

 

GOSPEL ACCLAMATION

 

                In the eucharistic celebration the acclamations which ought to be sung are:  Alleluia, Holy, Memorial Acclamation and Great Amen.  These acclamations should be led by the cantor and sung in familiar musical settings in order to maximize congregational participation. The Alleluia (or Lenten Gospel Acclamation) must be sung.  If it is not sung, it is omitted.

 

                The most commonly used settings of this include the plainsong chant and the Celtic Alleluia.  There are many other Alleluias and Acclamations that would work, especially if the music is printed in your worship aid.

 

RITE OF MARRIAGE

 

                The actual Rite of Marriage does not call for any specific music.

 

LITURGY OF THE EUCHARIST

 

PREPARATION OF THE GIFTS

 

                An instrumental or vocal selection or a congregational hymn may accompany the presentation and preparation of the gifts.  The music used here should not prolong this (minor) part of the liturgy.  If a congregational hymn is chosen, it should follow the same criteria stated for the processional hymn.  If a vocal solo is done it should reflect God's love for you and his blessing on your marriage.  A few ideas are:

 

                The Gift of Love - Hal Hopson

                Wedding Hymn - G.F. Handel

                Wedding Song - Flor Peeters or Heinrich Schütz

                Be Thou With Them - J.S. Bach

                Where Charity and Love Prevail - Lucien Deiss

                A Nuptial Blessing - Richard Proulx or Michael Joncas

                When Love is Found - Brian Wren

 

EUCHARISTIC ACCLAMATIONS

 

                This includes the Holy, Holy, Memorial Acclamation and Amen.  These acclamations should be led by the cantor and sung in familiar musical settings in order to maximize congregational participation.  Some of the most well-known Eucharistic Prayer acclamations include:

 

                Mass of Creation - Haugen

                Community Mass - Proulx

                Heritage Mass - Alstott

                People's Mass - Vermulst

 

LORD'S PRAYER

 

                The Lord's Prayer may be sung if the congregation can participate.  Otherwise, it should be spoken.  A solo version of the Lord's Prayer is not appropriate here.

 

LAMB OF GOD

 

                The Lamb of God is a litany which accompanies the breaking of the bread.  It is preferable to do a Lamb of God setting from the same Mass setting as the Eucharistic Prayer Acclamations when that is possible.

 

COMMUNION SONG

 

                Congregational singing is appropriate here because it gives expression to our unity in the Body of Christ.  Preferably a song with repeated refrain for the congregation should be sung.  A suitable vocal or instrumental solo or a choral piece could also be used here.  Some ideas for a congregational song are:

 

                Gift of Finest Wheat

                I Am the Bread of Life

                Gather Us Together

                Ubi Caritas - Taize or chant

                Eat this Bread

                Taste and See - Haugen, Kreutz or Moore

 

CONCLUDING RITE

 

RECESSIONAL

 

                A festive instrumental piece of music is most effective as accompaniment to the recessional.

 

DEVOTION TO MARY

 

                Where the custom exists of placing flowers at the shrine of Our Lady, a Marian song by the cantor or congregation, or an instrumental piece is appropriate.  This ceremony should take place either after the Prayer after Communion and before the Concluding Rite, or after the Dismissal and before the Recessional.

 

RECOMMENDED RESOURCES

 

                All resources are available for use from the Liturgy Library at the Office for Liturgy & Spirituality, (619) 490-8290.

 

CATHOLIC WEDDING BOOK, THE Stein & Graham; Paulist Press

CELEBRATING MARRIAGE Paul Covino, ed.; The Pastoral Press

HANDBOOK OF CHURCH MUSIC FOR WEDDINGS, Mary A. Simcoe, ed. Liturgy Training Publications

MUSIC FOR WEDDING SERVICES - Novallis

(video), Kenneth Hendrick; Liturgical Press

PARISH WEDDINGS Austin Fleming; Liturgical Training Publ.

TOGETHER FOR LIFE Joseph Champlin; Ave Maria Press

WE WILL CELEBRATE A CHURCH WEDDING George Szews; Liturgical Press

WHAT YOUR WEDDING CAN BE William J. Peters; Abbey Press

WHEN LOVE IS FOUND Jeanne Cotter & David Haas; GIA

 

Revised 8/95 - Office for Liturgy & Spirituality

 

Contents:

1.        To the Bride and Groom

2.        Musical Judgment

3.        Liturgical Judgment

4.        Pastoral Judgment

5.        Place of Music within the  Wedding Liturgy

6.        Introductory Rites

a.        Prelude

b.       Processional

c.        Opening Hymn

7.        Liturgy of the Word

a.        First Reading

b.       Responsorial Psalm

c.        Gospel Acclamation

8.        Rite of Marriage

9.        Liturgy of the Eucharist

a.        Preparation of the Gifts

b.       Eucharistic Acclamations

c.        Lord’s Prayer

d.       Lamb of God

e.        Communion Song

10.     Concluding Rite

11.     Recessional

12.     Devotion to Mary

13.     Recommended Resources